How to prepare yourself for the passing away of a loved one
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To Prepare Yourself for the Passing Away of a Loved One can take its toll on you both physically and mentally. You may experience a whole gamut of emotions. One moment you may find yourself incapacitated by grief, whereas in the next you may feel almost normal. Although everyone deals with grief differently, we go through the same stages as we learn to deal with loss or impending loss. Here are a few ways to prepare yourself for it.
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A few suggestions
- Let everyone in the family know that the loved one would be passing away soon, so that they may be able to visit him/ her to say their good byes before the death.
- Tell the children in the family about it also. The children are as much a part of the family as the grown ups and have the right to know the sad news, the thought of sparing them now will only make things difficult later.
- Spend as much time as possible with the loved one. Now is the time to make your peace about past grievances and to talk over and about things that you never had the opportunity to discuss earlier.
- Keep members of the family who cannot be with you, updated with the latest health news of the loved person.
- Let family members come together and spend time in the room of the loved one. Your last memories of him/ her should be of their smiling face and contentment at having the whole family gathered around them when the need arose.
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Do’s
- Keep your spirits up and let the loved one see that you are not buckling under the grief or it will add to their own sadness of leaving you
- Tell them that you love them again and again; these are the most important words that can be spoken at this time.
- Plant a tree in the memory of the loved one in your garden and let them know about it. It will give them peaceful.
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Don’ts
- Don’t make funeral arrangements in their hearing, (if you do make them).
- Don’t let your fear of their death communicate itself to them. They are fighting demons of their own; they do not need additional worries.